Enthusiasm has diminishing returns
There are more times in my life than I can count where I said to myself “I’m going to change my life through taking control of my weight”. And granted there are at least a handful of times in my life where that ended up being true. There are probably 4 or 5 big periods in my life where I was able to stick through it, change my life, and ultimately benefit from the fruits of my labor. People complemented me, girls were more attracted to me, tight spaces were easier to get through. The problem with this is that you have both enthusiasm in knowing that you’re capable of such change, but knowing that you ultimately reverted to your current state eventually puts a damper on your efforts. Sure I tell myself that once I’m back at an ideal weight or body composition, that the memory of how bad it was being overweight will be enough motivation for me to maintain my healthier lifestyle. WRONG! There has to be another way of looking at your life once you’ve hit a goal. I do my best losses when there is some sort of singular goal in my mind other than the weight itself. I’ll be the first to admit that it’s usually for a girl that I’d like to ask out, or for the general idea that it’d be nice to have sex again sometime in the near future. Lots of people will tell you that to be successful you have to do it for yourself, that’s bullshit. I’m sorry, but if I’m not really getting winded walking up stairs, or not having trouble keeping up with friends when we go out walking or hiking, there’s not THAT great of an incentive to make such drastically limiting factors to my life.
Personal health is something I take serious, and to that end I don’t smoke, I don’t eat that much sugar, I don’t drink regular soda, I don’t sit down and play video games that much, I stay away from heavy meals of things like pasta, and yet I gain weight on a diet of anything more than about 1500 calories, even when my life is not very sedentary (I keep a pedometer on me at all times and track my activity levels. I do strength training 3 days a week religiously, and generally try to live a healthy life. Therefore I tend to have great satisfaction in the strides that I take to try and maintain a healthy lifestyle, I do these things for myself, so when it comes to losing weight, how much more am I doing it for myself? A horse without a whip or carrot will be hard to get to a particular destination. I can say for certain that my first great success came when I spent a year getting in shape for my senior prom so that I would have the confidence to ask a girl out for it. It worked. In college after some weight came back on it felt like I was the only one around that wasn’t having any sex. I lost a bunch of weight and guess what? Yep I ended up in a threesome with 2 cute girls. There are more examples such as spite for an ex that broke up with me ultimately leading to weight loss and a new girl in my life, but you get the point.
I think ultimately I’m at the point in my life where my “carrot” is the idea of meeting a great woman whom I can try to maintain a healthy lifestyle with, get married, have healthy children, and be able to live a long and healthy life watching them grow up. If that’s not a carrot that encompasses both doing it for someone else (meeting a great girl), and doing it for myself (the rest), then I don’t know what else I can incentivize myself with.
Current Weight: 288 Pounds